Right or wrong emotions: Stop being a slave of your own emotions
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Let me be straight from the start: Emotions are neither right nor wrong. They are exactly that: emotions. How come do we qualify them as good or bad, positive or negative? For ages - and still a reality in certain cultures and families - sadness is not seen with good eyes if you are a man, but totally understandable if you are a woman. The other way around when it comes to anger; acceptable for men, considered atypical for women. There are here cultural and societal factors b
Going back to work after maternity leave: Daydreaming or night sweats?
"I want desperately to go back to work". "I am dreading getting back to work." These two perspectives couldn't be more opposite; however, one is not more or less valid than the other. My mom used to tell me how much she dreamt of going back to work during her maternity leave - which only lasted 5 months by the way! Despite loving her baby (me!), my mom also loved her job. Being home with a baby who demanded all her care and attention was not nearly enough heaven on earth. Rel
Carve out your parenting path: Letting go of parenting ghosts
First time you become a parent it is inevitable to take a closer look at your childhood. If you never went through this exercise, it is something I truly recommend. And if you can do it together with your partner, even better. You will learn immensely about yourself as an individual as well as a parent. With this knowledge present, you can consciously make different and better decisions when it comes to your parenting style. In addition, it gives you the opportunity to align
Obedience or collaboration: A path to mindful parenting
My mom used to give me and my sister a slap now and then or punishing us by taking away something we liked. Am I traumatized because of her past actions? No, I can't say that I am. Surely, I felt loved and cared for despite her punishments. She is a wonderful mom! She was mom and dad at the same time, and we still have a close relationship. When I became a mom the first time around, I was curious to find out what mom would I be. So, it was only natural that I started question
The Value of Friendship: What are true friends made of?
Jess C. Scott said, "Friends are the family you choose". Do we really choose our friends? I don't know if we choose who our friends are and they choose us or if it is a mix between choice and fate. What I do know is that we have a say in our friendships. Usually when someone meets me the first time, they see me as a social and extrovert person. I do love people and I truly enjoy being around them, so I get why would someone describe me in this way. Maybe some even assume I ha
Happily ever after: Fairy-tale or reality?
Marriage. What's the secret for a happy marriage? I believe a lot of us - unmarried, to be married, married, or no longer married - have asked ourselves this question. I want to be blunt from the start. I don't believe in a secret formula or ingredient for a happily ever after. I do believe in healthy and strong loving relationships, and the love we put in to make it work. My parents are far from the loving couple ideal. They have been separated since I was nine years old, th
New beginnings: What if you are not ready to say yes?
One thing about change: New beginnings. But what if you are not ready for a new chapter? Recently I came back home after 6 years living and working abroad. This decision was not taken lightly. It took my husband and I one year of long and deep conversations, a thorough analysis of all pros and cons, in between disagreements and second-guessing our thoughts and emotions. After long debates and valid concerns, we were ready to come back home. And we immediately felt at home. Th
The Power of Connection: How to connect your way to a new job
Changing jobs is a nightmare for some whereas an opportunity for others. Some thrive when changing careers, while others shrink only by the thought of it. How come does it feel so frightening to change jobs for some? While others see it as an obvious next step? Why is changing careers seen as an impossibility for some people? While for others it is the beginning of an adventure? I'd say that uncomfortableness is an underneath feature in both cases. After all we are talking ab
Coping and connecting through change
When was the last time you felt connected to change in your life? A decade ago, a week ago, yesterday? Change happens to each one of us. Every day. Even when unnoticed. We go through small changes and big changes. We change others and are changed by them. What may feel completely different is when you are the enabler of change, rather than being a mere observer. In this case, change is not just happening to you but you become an active part of change. You feel connected to wh
Staying abroad or coming home: A new path for connection
Many of you readers have been living away from your homeland. For some of you it has been already so long that you have probably stopped counting. Perhaps for others it is just the beginning of a new adventure abroad. You may have moved alone and have your own family by now. Maybe you went by yourself looking for a new challenge. It could be that you have relocated for a job opportunity or to accompany your partner. Regardless of where you fit into there is a common link. You
How to turn off the world’s noise and tune in into your inner voice?
Work meetings. Colleagues chatting. Social media scrolling. News on TV. Radio on. Phone calls to family. Texting with friends. Sounds like a considerable flow of information going around, right? During this time, our brains constantly receiving input. All the noise of the world coming to us at once. Every single day. One could say: Exhausting! It is indeed. Though we keep exposing ourselves every day to the same scenario. And why is that? Do we enjoy being overloaded with dat
Influence: How does persuasion strengthen your relationships?
Influence. Such a powerful word. If you were to think about who had a major influence in your life until now, who would come to mind? Have they been more influential to the positive or to the negative side? What about yourself and those who you have influenced along the way, how would that list look like? During some interesting conversations, I have realized that for some people influence is something seen almost as a magic trick intended only for special profiles such as po
Present vs. Future: How to honor the now while planning ahead?
Being in the now. Living in the present. May sound a hippie's propaganda or a guru's speech. Why is it so relevant to live in the present after all? Living in the now is kind of an art. The art of being present and staying connected. In a world where people rush instead of slowing down, talk instead of listening, react instead of acting; learning to live in the now is an invaluable skill. Often it may seem as if you are stuck in the present moment. You are here, though not mo
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