Forgiveness: How to ask for forgiveness?
Last week we’ve talked about forgiveness and how powerful it can be when we give permission to forgive ourselves. Focusing on the same topic for a bit longer, let’s try to see it from a different angle.
As human beings we make mistakes and occasionally we hurt others, perhaps more than we’d like to acknowledge. We harm them sometimes with our words or actions, every so often with our silence or aloofness. We let pride and our need to be right get in the way, leading to alienation of those surrounding us. Anger and grudge start filling the gaps till it becomes our daily state of mind. Until one day we wake up no longer remembering what led us there. What if you’d ask for forgiveness? How would that look like? How would it make you feel?
AWARENESS. Where does the anger and resentment come from? Naming your own feelings might help you get in touch with your emotions while simultaneously gaining more awareness.
ACCEPTANCE. What good is there in holding on to these feelings? Accepting that no human being is perfect - including yourself - allows you to see beyond your own reason.
RELEASE. How can I get rid of this dead weight? Letting go of all the bitterness and guilt gives you the freedom and space to welcome kindness and stillness.
Forgiveness is an act of compassion to yourself. Asking for forgiveness shows you’re willing to shorten the distance between you and the other person you’ve harmed. It does not mean you acted in bad faith or were badhearted, rather that you recognize your mistakes and are ready to be forgiven. It is not about being right or wrong nor feeling a winner or a loser. It is about surrendering…being able to move forward to a place of inner peace and true acceptance. Take the high road and be mindful of what really matters to you.